Also they need time to process. I expect by the time games start it will be a relief to have that focus again and they will be (mostly) able to switch between sadness/grief and then distract themselves by focusing on the task at hand.
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If it’s your spouse, the closest relationship, the grief will probably be paralyzing. The 6 months feeling like jelly, above, rings true. Just numb. And in shock. So sorry you went through that @StevieJayUSA
If it is a work colleague/friend - and while Jota was friends with everyone, there would be levels to that with a few close friends and then the rest of the group a bit further out - then you take it case by case, but most of them should be able to move forward and do their job.
It doesn’t mean they won’t still be grieving, because they will. Especially in the early part, where lots of firsts happen - funeral, back to training, team meetings, paying respects outside, seeing Jota’s family, having the first pre-season game tomorrow…
There are lots of hurdles to get over, as the players adjust, and I suspect there will be sharp moments of grief that hit much further down the line. But as they come together and prepare for the season ahead, in addition to the grief there will be other emotions that stir, things like determination, personal pride, gratitude and joy at being able to do their thing - something many thousands of fans would love to be able to do, but we were never at their level.
I don’t think the grief will disappear. It doesn’t work like that. I think you carry it with you and it is part of who you are as a human being, moving forward. The debilitating aspect, for colleagues, will likely be short lived, and life will go on as it must.
I think we will have a good season, and the memory of Diogo Jota will help to fuel it.
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I know that as a player, after the first shock, I’d take immense motivation from it going into the new season. I’m sure that will be the case for many lads in our team: “Let’s do it for Diogo’s memory!”
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Our lads are strong enough.
The club will support them.
I do hope they win everything the next season. That’s what I would always hope for.
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If they use the memory of Jota to fuel them more , so be it.
But I’d like to think our lads are motivated and good enough to win everything irregardless.
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Sorry for the late reply, Maria. When something happens, we only see a tiny part of the reason why it happens, the rest escapes us completely.
Maybe there is no God, and everything is haphazard. Or, we are immortal anyway, and in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter that much.
Diogo’s memory will stay with us forever, and that in itself is a comforting thought.
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I’ve had that crisis before and did come to the latter conclusion.
God doesn’t exist. Not the God that exists in the scriptures anyway.
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Anyway back to Diogo.
His memory will remain and that for me is a far greater thing.
God of course exists. Just because we don’t understand does not change the certainty…
Rest in peace Diogo 
I think the opposite is true, There maybe many gods or none.
It’s not for a discussion here mind.
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Brilliant from Arne, he gets us just like Jurgen did, but still so sad
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