Yeah, wrong choice of word on my part.
The point is that the examples that make the news and end up being discussed are often extreme and very rare. And then they end up framing the whole debate. The end result of that is that it ends up a lot harder for the vast majority of transexuals who just want to get on with their lives and be happy.
I find this site is really problematic for this. It’s hard to have any kind of conversation like this without someone (it’s usually one of the same handful of people) jumping in and going ‘but what about this?’ And the implication is always something like transgender rights have gone too far because this person wants to identify as a housebrick. Or feminist has gone to far because this fringe crackpot thinks all men should be electronically tagged. Or in this case, this clear and present danger to women is demanding to go to a female prison because they now claim to identify as a women (of course they shouldn’t, by the way. It would be absurd).
We have a morbid fascination with transgender people attacking women. But here is the thing. One in four women in the UK have been sexually assaulted. I’m going to say that again, just in case the fucking staggering enormity of the problem isn’t apparent. A quarter of women have, at some point in their life, had to deal with sexual assault. That is an endemic problem within society of men assaulting women. But there is never any conversation about restricting or curtailing men’s rights. Ever. Even after the murder of Sarah Everard - a shocking moment, in which quite rightly the spotlight fell on the danger from men that women face just going about their lives - a common male response was (adopt whining self pitying voice) ‘it’s not all men’.
And yet, here we are, talking limiting the rights of transexual women because of a hypothetical chance that a woman might at some point be attacked by one (or someone pretending to be one), while largely ignoring and tolerating the tsunami of sexual assaults perpetrated on a daily basis by normal, bog standard men. Which is why, and I appreciate this is difficult for some people to hear, the root of this is bigotry and prejudice.
Prejudice will always try and justify itself. It will always try and hide behind a legitimate concern. Of course I’m not prejudiced - I’m just concerned about the safety of women.
@Dane I think think made the point that we wouldn’t be happy to have a transgender person in a changing room next to our partner or daughter. What the point fails to understand is that our daughters and partners are not safe full stop. Anywhere in society. There is a 25% chance your daughter or partner is going to be sexually assaulted at some point, and it’s vanishingly unlikely to be a transexual person doing it. Focussing on a transexual person in a changing room is simply absurd in this context.
I’ll make a prediction now. At some point, in the near future, a women will be assaulted in the toilets or in a changing room, by someone wearing female clothes to gain access to that space. When that happens, it will make headline news and spark a further debate about transgender rights, people will kick off that it shouldn’t be allowed, and the transgender community will take an absolute kicking. There will be calls for a (name of victim)’s law. The Daily Mail will demand that ‘enough is enough’. The Sun will launch one of its tedious campaigns for justice. And on that day, when that inevitably happens, the fact that another 1700 (yes, that’s an accurate number) women were raped or sexually assaulted will be ignored.
When every single day somewhere between 1000 and 2000 women are sexually assaulted, to very little fanfare or reaction, it absolutely farcical for society to spend this much energy getting its knickers in a twist about how safe women are from transgender people.