Good luck…and not in a sarcastic way…in a well meaning way…my step daughter had our grandson near on 20 years ago…grandson’s dad didn’t want to know him…so she parented on her own…ok a bit of help from grandparents…she worked shift hours at the local asda…and eventually a part-time course at uni…now she is in a well paid social service job…grandson…well no trouble at all…passed his driving test…bought a car…fulltime job at Next…every few months has a trip abroad…so yes go for it..it can be done and rewarding…just look to the future…hardwork…but worth it.
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Best of luck. There will be a sense of relief initially I’m sure.
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I know about bike bonking - I’ve only done a mild one where I limped home but yeah its brutal
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That sucks ISMF and you must be devastated but it sounds like, longer term, it will be for the best for everyone.
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Sorry to hear that. Stay strong and be yourself!
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Stay strong @ISMF. This happened to me 35 years ago. My son is a magnificent person. He did 22 years in the RAF now he works in Boeing and has just qualified as a driving instructor and referee’s assistant. Plus his two kids. One who was 21 this year and his daughter is going on 16. 
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Sorry to hear this but things will get better! Take care!
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Dear @ISMF, you are one of the most wonderful persons I know and I can’t figure out why you and your family should be put through just devastating tests. Totally speechless. Just praying that you, your wife, and the kids the peace you all deserve.
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Ifti is a top chap too.
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So sorry to hear about this.
Take care.
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sorry to hear this ISMF,
and here we are arguing about Slot, Gapko and tatics etc, etc..
your news reminds me there more important things in life to worry about
take care,
Bonus
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Thank you for all the warm messages, reminds me what a great community we have 
Felt good to say what’s happening. Not even told family or friends yet. Been carrying it by myself for months, shielding the kids.
Big few weeks ahead, telling the kids, ex moving out, then letting people know. Felt like a bit of weight off my shoulders just posting what has been happening. Just glad it feels like I am coming out the other end!
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Oh, I presumed you were already separated. Extra tough time carrying that load and having to deal with what’s coming up.
I bow to your strength!
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much Love ISMF and i hope in time you all come out of this in a better place.
i have nothing to say that can help you, beyond saying at the end of a storm…well…you know the rest…
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You are a much better man than me @ISMF , I wouldnt be able to handle that situation with the equanimity and grace that you have shown.
Hope your ex continues to maintain good talking terms with the kids.
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On the way to the UK to see my Mum and the family in Sheffield. It’s her 91st on Saturday. Not sure what to expect when I see her, apparently she’s very befuddled these days. I hope she recognises me.
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My grandma is 98 years old and keeps confusing me to my dad. And keeps confusing my son to me.
This really ain’t easy.
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The worst part of visiting my grandma is that she wishes why was she still alive. That entire crying and whining bit makes it really intolerable.
We can do everything that’s needed. But the brain has frankly been that far so along.
I wish you all the best, hopefully things get better.
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My Mum is very sleepy and confused. She has moments of lucidity, but it’s rare that one sentence follows the other. Lots of family issues. Guilt, responsibility, resentment etc. Nothing really prepares you for all this.
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